Moments of Hope


Mother's Day means different things to different people. For some, it is a time to reflect on a loved one that has since passed on, and for others it could also mean a celebration of what you have created. For this mother, it is both.

I remember many times as a child, when feeling under the weather the only one that could make it right was my mom. She had an innate ability to make me feel as if it were all going to be okay. Whether it was a skinned knee or a broken toy, there she was with the words of encouragement that a little girl needed to feel secure.

Or when graduating from high school and then university, she was there to cheer me on and show her pride in what she had produced. But her biggest sense of pride was on my wedding day some 17 years ago. She did in fact tell me that on that special day in June.

However, all these years later as I sit down to write this blog, I too can reflect on what motherhood means to me. I have my own sense of accomplishment, having produced 4 wonderful daughters of my own. They are the light of my life and my reason for doing what I do.

I digress...


What about those of you who want to be moms but haven't to this point been so lucky? There are different solutions available to help in your quest. IVF (in-vitro fertilization) is one such solution. There is one caveat though, it is terribly expensive with no guarantees of success.  If only the government was able to help out with the costs through OHIP health coverage.  It could be that much easier and a lot less stressful too.

Conceivable Dreams, a grass roots organization whose soul purpose is to lobby the government in support of funding. With the costs of IVF treatments into the thousands, for some it is out of reach. Conceivable Dreams is trying to make a difference in the lives of those who struggle with getting pregnant. Motherhood, for many is the natural progression of life and relationship, with no guarantees of either. 

As a mom who lives for her family, I am inspired by what Conceivable Dreams strives to accomplish. They have compiled considerable data in favour of our Liberal Provincial government to fund the treatments.  Funding solutions in both Quebec and Alberta have proven quite positive. The related health care costs were reduced in both cases. 

You see, in many cases of IVF, couples fertilize multiple eggs in hopes of a better chance of getting pregnant. The risk of multiple births is a direct trade off for multiple eggs being fertilized.  It makes sense doesn't it?

Imagine if funding was available to wannabe parents? That solution would allow for a more focused effort on getting pregnant with one baby at a time. Funding solutions would reduce associated costs of multiple preterm babies;  respiratory issues, neonatal care, developmental delays are all symptoms of being born early.  Extended hospital stays at thousands of dollars a day end up costing more than the IVF treatments themselves. So, it seems only natural that funding for IVF should be taken seriously.

I would ask that those of you who have had success through IVF treatments to share your stories with your local politicians, after all they are elected to work for us and not against those who got them elected in the first place.

I personally believe that they have both a fiduciary duty and a moral obligation to answer to their public. They sometimes lose sight of that once they are in office.  I hope that the provincial government, either current or future at least look at options surrounding IVF funding. 

And with that, WonderMoms wishes past, present and future moms a Happy Mother's Day. Remember the good times, reflect on the past and above all else, love the present that motherhood brings each and every one of us.  


Disclosure: I am a valued member of the Conceivable Dreams blog team.